We can only be defiled by the things that come from within!
When we talk about changes, we talk about the condition of one’s heart. What others do to us does not come from us; it is directed towards us to test the condition of our hearts. Our reaction to the actions of others and the outside pressure determine the content of our hearts.
«Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life» (Proverbs, 4:23).